Love Languages

Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages? I had heard of them, but that's about it. The other day, through a trail of links from blog to blog, I eventually stumbled upon the a simple quiz/questionnaire that you can take online to help you assess what your language is. The 5 different languages are Physcial Touch, Words of Affirmation, Qulaity Time, Receiving Gifts and Acts of Service. Hubs and I both took the quiz to see what our languages are.

The results?

JAMIE: Words of Affirmation and Quality Time were tied for my top language. Although, in the break down they said, I lean towards Words of Affirmation. And I have to say, I totally agree that this is how I communicate.

Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality of Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

TIM: Physical Touch was the clear winner for hubs. This actually didn't surprise me. He is always coming up and giving me hugs at random times, like when I'm doing the dishes, and he loves to cuddle, hold hands and all that jazz.

Physical Touch: This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

 I hope that knowing this about each other will help us express our love for one another in ways that are satisfying and special to both of us.

I encourage you to take the quiz. Even if it's only so you can be self aware. It really simple, and it doesn't take long at all.